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Begininning again
Posted:Aug 14, 2018 6:12 pm
Last Updated:Sep 11, 2018 7:34 am

Have a little bit of time away from helping kids sort through their myriad of life drama, so I thought I'd get working on the blog.
A old friend of mine, from this site asked where my blog was. Told them it was deleted along with my old profile and she immediately chastised for not getting it back up. There's a joke in there somewhere, but I'm going to let it pass. Anyways, it seems I'm susceptible to goading, so here we go.

I have played the guitar and sang for god knows how many years. I was sure I was going to be a rock star in high school/college, but I'll let you guess how that turned out.

Since then, it's been hit and miss. I'll put the guitar down for a couple of years at a time, which is surprising if you've seen my bedroom. haha Only a chosen few will understand that line. Then i pick it up again and learn some new stuff and hopefully write some new songs. I'll start off with a song i wrote a few years back about a recurring dream. And a newer one. I'll try to remember to update it, but to be honest, I can go years with writing nothing, then spit out 15 songs in a month.

BTW. All the lyrics I post have been copyrighted.
Take me as I am
Posted:Aug 14, 2018 6:59 pm
Last Updated:Aug 22, 2018 6:02 pm

Ok, this one is more about relationships over the last 5 years. very honest about my thoughts that I really don't think I want to get married again. Been divorced for quite a while. Yet it always seems that, though I make that point up front. And it's agreed upon, most have ended up with me being the bad guy, who doesn't want to get married. I don't mind being a bad boy, but i hate being the bad guy.

You ask me who I want to be,
always just the man you see.
It's been so long since I tore down those walls.
Been here once or twice my friend,
Never like the way it ends.
When smiles turn into tears and the world seems to fall.
Watch it fall.

It's really not that hard to just take me as I am,
You tell me what you need to live,
It's just the one thing I can't give.
And I don't want to be the one who makes you cry.
So if you have to leave, I understand.
It's a shame you couldn't take me as I am.

I'd love to see you one more night,
I know that won't make it right,
But i really hate to see us end like this.
You never had to suffer lies,
my heart was never in disguise.
So if you have to leave, why can't it be with a kiss.
Oh my friend.

It's really not that hard to just take me as I am,
You tell me what you need to live,
It's just the one thing I can't give.
And I don't want to be the one who makes you cry.
So if you have to leave, I understand.
It's a shame you couldn't take me as I am.

Instrumental, then
Repeat Chorus with

It's a shame you couldn't take me as I am.
Why couldn't you just take me as I am.
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Is there a Generation Gap?
Posted:Sep 24, 2018 12:11 pm
Last Updated:Sep 24, 2018 6:58 pm

I have stated on here a few times I am sure, if not I will state it again. I don't date ladies too far away from my age bracket due to the differences in life experiences, tastes, and all that. The generation gaps, if you will. I do like some of the music, bands my kids like, but they do listen to some that I'm no. I will take my youngest daughter who lives with me, to see some movies that I would never dream of taking a date to. But she's my daughter. I won't even go into all the other parameters, but lets just leave it at, there really isn't any aspects of life, where there isn't a generation gap.

But wait!!! I think I found one!!

I have a very good, open and honest relationship with all my kids, but me and my youngest are really tight. She's 16, quick to remind me almost 17, and has been living with me for the last two years. We talk about everything. While we don't get into details, she knows I'm on a "less than vanilla" dating site.

Last night, we were talking about dating, online dating and some of the benefits. But mostly about the downsides, the crap that women put up with and some of the heartaches that can and do arise. While the conversation started on the later, this talk created a revelation to me, when it turned more towards the crazy crap that goes on with guys on the internet.

Yes, gentlemen, and I use that term loosely, you have shown me that there is one area that is not age specific. Completely void of any generational gap. Now again, it's not all men. But after doing some searches on here, I'm coming up with a number around 82%. So certainly a majority.

For the record, she doesn't date much. Doesn't go out with anyone, unless I've met them. And I don't mean, introduced to me as he's picking her up. Over protective, maybe, but I can live with that. Some bells can't be unrung. She isn't on any dating sites, but she's a teenager so she's on Instagram, the FB messenger.. the comments here are in reference to the similarities there and on Citymixx.

We started with just the rude and crude comments guys post. I'm telling her about some of the stupid things guys say on here to try and attract women. She starts describing some of the things her and her friends put up with. Yep, pretty much the same, "hey wanna fuck", "do you suck dick". I'm both amazed and being the dad type, a little pissed off. Later I'll describe why it wasn't as bad once I heard the whole story. Anyways, I think my favorite on the "comments " portion of our discussion, is what I call the cave man vocabulary. When they want to know if the girls will send nude pics..they can't piece together even a simple sentence like, "hey, will you share any nude pics?"

No, it's a Neanderthal, "Nudes?" One stinking word is all they can come up with. No use wasting any effort..I mean what if she says no. Don't want to have wasted all that time with a long sentence first. Much less get to know her a little bit with some conversation. Amazing!

The it was dick pics. Oh yeah, this isn't just something for the older folk. The younger generation of men seem to think the way to pick up women is to fly that dick like a flag, apparently just like some of the older guys on here. No generation gap there fellas. Good job. Doesn't matter if it's big or small, it's in her words, "like they think they have to prove that , yeah I'm a guy and I have a dick, promise".

So being the dad, I had to ask. So little one, what do you say to them when they send you those messages, or wave the penile banner at you. Her response, "Oh hell, you never respond to them. If you do, even if it's to say not interested, they blow up and spam you with crazy hateful messages." Priceless! Again, no age differences here. Seems like the inability to take a "not interested, thanks", knows no age boundaries either.

I said earlier, why I wasn't as mad at the idiots prospecting for my daughters attention. Here's a 16 year old that already has these idiot guys figured out and how to deal with them. LOL. Apparently , there is no generation gap when it comes to women being smart enough to know how to deal with the 82% that are just bone heads.

So I have been proven wrong. There is at least one area where there is no generational gap. Don't think I'm going to change my dating preferences over it, but it was enlightening.

I did want to thank the 82% of guys. You've set the bar for successful communication with women so low, my daughters 3 month old Beagle can step over it without jumping. Just makes it that much easier for the rest of us guys.
Where the hell is this going..or is that coming.
Posted:Sep 22, 2018 9:31 am
Last Updated:Sep 23, 2018 6:14 am

So was having a discovery kind of conversation with an extraordinary lady on here and the question came up..When having sex, and it's time to orgasm, where do you like to cum.

I thought, well that's a easy one. Which ever orifice I happen to be in at the moment. But of course nothing is ever as simple as it seems. What if..

Preface statement. I am not judging anyone. I respect your preferences and like hearing your opinion. This is not a area where there can ever be a I'm right and you're wrong .. To each their own.

So then it was ..what if you're getting a blow job. Do you cum on her face, in her mouth or where?

If you are practicing, no babies sex, (not safe sex, cause then I'd have a condom on), with a steady monogamous partner. And you pull out...where?

My take is this. I think the whole facial thing has been propagated by the porn industry. And I don't understand the fascination with it. I know it makes for a better "shot". haha And for the record, I've experimented with it. Had a lady say she wanted to try it. Neither of us found it to be a wow, that was great thing. If I'm in the depths of passion, and I'm sliding inside of someone, I really don't want to pull out. I mean, I really don't want to.

Instead, after all that wonderful sex, I need to pull out, quickly move up to her face and I end up cumming with the only thing touching my dick is my hand? Not to share too much, but I orgasm quite frequently with my dick in my hand. Why on earth, if I'm with a gorgeous lady would I want to pull out and cum on her face? Trust me , I wasn't doing all that "practice" by myself, just for my big moment and to show her..Look what i learned how to do. I've been practicing

I do find mutual masturbation can be fun, but again, Just not my thinking to be, I want to cum on her face. /shrug

I do think part of it is also a control thing, I know a lot of women find it degrading. Just me again, but I really don't want to degrade anyone, and I don't need to control anyone. Think control is a fallacy anyways...but that's a different rabbit hole.

And yes, I do know some women who like it. If so..carry on!

But honestly, nothing compares to that feeling when you're inside her. You can feel her contracting around you. And then feel yourself pulsing . All mingled together, resulting in just a great, mind blowing, simultaneous orgasm. Maybe its just me. But I always find that hot.

To each their own...again, not saying I'm right and you're wrong. Like with all things sex and preferences, I say do what makes you happy and do it as often as humanly possible.
Grocery Shopping
Posted:Sep 19, 2018 5:17 pm
Last Updated:Sep 21, 2018 4:56 am

I was chatting with someone from the site, who by the way has my head spinning in confusion, which is a hard thing to do to me. But we were talking about relationships, long distance, what we looked for, what we have experienced. It got me thinking of my relationships over the last 13 years. What I refer to as my HD period. Happily Divorced.

Was thinking about not only the women I've dated, but more so in how I met them. There were some from here. Some from the match site. Some I met just meandering around, the beach, out for dinner etc.

Which reminded me of my all time funniest, strangest meet I had. I'm going to call her, hmmm Stacy. Love that name, name of my first childhood love. Anyways, I digress.

I'm out grocery shopping one Friday as usual. It just happens to be Valentines Day. I was without a significant other for the first time, so knew I wasn't going to be spending much money besides the daughters of course. So the grocery store I go to is giant. They have everything, including a nice floral dept. I decided it would be fun to pass out roses. So, I go over to the floral dept and buy 48 long stemmed roses. The lady asks if I want them in a vase or wrapped. I tell her to just lay them in the front of my cart. She looks at me weird, I get that a lot, but she does it anyway.

Now off I go shopping. But every time I see an unaccompanied lady...I pull out a rose, give it to her, say...Happy Valentines day. Walk off and continue shopping. haha This goes on..and I keep shopping. I am giving roses to young ladies that don't know what to think of me. To ladies older than me, that seem ready to cry. To one who I thought was going to hit me, asked me what the hell I thought I was doing, but kept the rose anyway.

Meanwhile I notice a lady who seems to be following me. I notice I have given her a rose. Every time I stop and look at something, she stops. When I look up at her, she turns away real quick. Like she just noticed the Nutella was on sale. I keep on shopping and keep on saying Happy Valentines day. It was a blast. Finally, done shopping and out of roses, I go to check out.

I'm standing there, watching the people like I always do. Out of the corner of my eye I see someone coming towards me. It's my friend the Nutella lady and she's making a bee line for me. I turn to her as she gets to me. She hands me a note, says "I'm really shy, but would you call me", turns around and almost runs out of the store.

I open the note and it said something to the effect of. "Thank you for the rose, that was sweet. I am really shy, (I'd already noticed that part) but really wanted to say something. Here is my number, if you like, you can call me.". So I did. Right there waiting in line. LOL

She doesn't answer, but I leave her a message and tell her I'll call her when I get home. When we did talk, we set up a date. We actually went out for quite a while. Got to be the funniest, and the most unique times I've met someone

So I know all of you have met only on this site. I mean it is Citymixx. But have you ever met someone in a funny way. Maybe just unexpected/ different.
HNW- Cause thats a dangerous place for a Zipper
Posted:Sep 19, 2018 1:16 pm
Last Updated:Sep 20, 2018 3:03 pm
Love Levi's 501's.
Aging Gracefully On Here
Posted:Sep 17, 2018 1:54 pm
Last Updated:Sep 18, 2018 11:50 am

I reactivated my account a few months ago. Re did my profile,added some recent pics, all from this summer. Did the search thing, sent out some messages to those around me that seemed interesting. I've been here off and on before, so I settled in for the wait. What was funny, was after a week or so I got a email, that stated, "I've turned you in for being a bot. Your pictures don't match your stated age. "

BIG NOTE HERE. At the time, I did have my correct age listed.

I replied back with, what are you talking about? No reply. Never heard anything from Customer Service, so figured it was a fluke. Then about a month ago, I get two more. Both calling me a fake, a bot. One stated they could tell from my message that I wasn't real. LOL For anyone who has read one of my blog posts, it's pretty obvious, I'm not a man of a few words.

So I decided to play. I have been rethinking what it is I'm looking for anyway, so figured I really didn't care at this point if anyone could find me in a search. So I changed my age to 96. Seemed like a good age. And I'm thinking, cool, this will put me out of the search range. I can have some time to just get my head around what I want, and not have to put up a ....Not looking at this time... banner on my profile.

I promised at the time I would do a follow up post about how changing my age to 96 would affect my time here. Pretty much forgot about it, but since someone reminded me.."rolls eyes", you know who you are. I decided it was time.

Things did not go as I planned. haha. I actually had more women and couples trying to IM me. Had quite a few messages, wanting to know how old I really was. My favorite, and she'll remain nameless in case she reads this, though I've never seen her on the blog, was something like.

Wow, you look really good for your age. What's your secret. I'd like to know more about you. yada yada......I think she's joking of course, so I respond back with something about the fountain of youth, that I stopped aging years ago. Then at the end, told her my real age. She responds back with, oh, well you shouldn't lie on your profile, that wasn't very nice.

I didn't even have the heart to reply back.

So I'm thinking some people don't really use the age parameter in their search. Some really don't care. Hell maybe some just really like the idea of the old geezer, who's about to kick the bucket and wonder if i have any money to leave.

Things it didn't change.

I still get messages, flirts and IM's from those lovely ladies in their 20's, who think I am hot, want me to move them down to Texas, and promise, "Just real woman, not game playing".

Still didn't help me decide what the hell I want. Or help me find someone that interests me that isn't 1700 miles away. Even in my new age bracket.

Was wondering though, do you put a specific age bracket on your preferences? Do you follow it no matter what? Have you broken it either way, older or younger?
The Eyes have it.
Posted:Sep 11, 2018 2:01 pm
Last Updated:Sep 19, 2018 4:47 am

I had lunch with three friends today. We met up at Twin Peaks, the food is really good there. We get this really cute waitress, she takes our order, flirts with us, yada yada. When she leaves I make the comment, "that girl has unbelievable eyes". And she did. Blueish grey eyes that seemed like they could look right down into your soul. Of course, I immediately got the rebuttable of, "with tits like that, you're looking at her eyes". hahaha, yeah they were three guy friends, if you haven't deduced that by now.

My response was, of course I love a great set of boobs, I love a nice butt. But look around the room. There are lots of nice boobs and butts walking around. None of them had her eyes.

From as long back as I can remember, eyes have always been a thing with me. It's one of the first things I notice on a woman. Sure, if you're walking away from me, going to notice your butt first, but if I can get you to turn around? Yeah, going to check out your eyes.

Eyes portray so much. They can show love, lust, desire, intelligence, anger, sadness and despair. They are truly the windows into the soul. I had a girlfriend about 8 ago, that I swear could stop me dead in my tracks with nothing more than a look.

On here, though a lot of us don't have face pics up, I do notice and check out the eyes while browsing. And there are some of you that just have gorgeous eyes.

If there's a question wrapped up in this post I guess it would be, do you notice peoples eyes? Are they as important to you as they apparently are to me?

Or is there some other aspect you notice, besides the obvious?
It's a conspiracy!!!!!
Posted:Sep 7, 2018 7:49 pm
Last Updated:Sep 11, 2018 1:06 pm

It's not the bots...sure they are there. It's not the scammers, trying to convince me to send money to some African country, cause if not they are surely going to be devoured by lions.

I enjoy being on this site. I really do. I enjoy the banter on the blogs, I enjoy reading the profiles. I've met and found some fun relationships on here. But the thing that always gets me, and I noticed this again the other day. The real conspiracy, that I am sure Citymixx is behind. The thing that always frustrates me on this site.

The women that always seem to interest me the most, are not in my general area. not talking,it's a hour drive to go see her. It's like they all seem to be anywhere from 500 to 10000 miles away. Safe to say, waaaaaaay outside my driving range.

It's the ones that see things the way I see them. The ones that post on these blogs with interesting, intriguing and thought provoking blogs and responses. The ones that I think, I bet we could have fun together. The ones with great eyes. The ones I can envision kissing , because of those lips. The ones who can make me think, or rethink idea's I long ago sorted out.

It's a conspiracy I tell you...

You ladies frustrate the hell out of me. Not intentionally, I know, but it sort of reiterates by disbelief in soul mates. Wouldn't it just suck if you were in say..Texas and your soulmate was in Asia, Europe, hell wherever wasn't within a couple of hundred miles.

Keep being you, keep on enticing me with the comments, posts, messages etc. But know that I think it's a conspiracy that none of you live next door. Just saying....

Sure I like a lot of the blogs by guys, but sorry fellas, just not attracted to guys.
The Lost Art
Posted:Sep 6, 2018 6:18 pm
Last Updated:Sep 20, 2018 3:04 pm

I've always been a kisser. And before any smart asses like myself say not an ass kisser. I just love kissing. Everything about it. Always have and sure I always will.

Just got home from a 5 hour first date. And yes, that was 5 hours without sex. I think she's one of BiggLala's good girls. We went for a drive to some vineyards close by. Had some snacks by a river, in great little park, and ended with a nice dinner. She had to go to work tonight. So while we didn't do much else, we did enjoy some wonderful "making out" at the park. And a great, see ya later kiss.

I have found more than once over the last couple of , a lady that would tell me. We have to stop. like stop what? Stop kissing? Like if we didn't stop kissing it HAD to lead to more. While I can't say I mind if it does lead to more..hell I a guy, it's never been my belief that it had to.

I've had girlfriends that enjoyed "making out", and sure lots of times it led to clothes flying off, like debris in a hurricane. But not always. In fact, I really enjoy the times, that there might be two or three great kissing sessions, before we actually found time to go further. Builds the anticipation. Sure lots of times, when it didn't lead to sex, I've had to go home and take matters into my own hands...well hand. But it didn't lessen the anticipation.

Is the art of making out, becoming a lost art. Did i fall asleep and someone wrote a new kissing without intercourse.

I hope not, cause that will just have to be another rule I can't follow.

Are you a kissing bandit, or are heavy make out sessions just reserved for sex.
Happy Birthday Japaneseass
Posted:Sep 6, 2018 5:36 am
Last Updated:Sep 6, 2018 5:15 pm

Saw a post about it yesterday. Here's to wishing Japaneseass a very happy birthday. Here's hoping you have a great day, a great year and all the fun you can handle.

Happy Birthday.

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