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Makin a list...
Posted:Nov 15, 2015 9:22 am
Last Updated:Mar 27, 2018 6:56 pm
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And checkin it twice
Goin to try to keep everything nice
List of blogs, thoughts, pondering, wishing, and daily fun...

The Fun Stuff - about me

On sex The kind of fg I need __ Sexy sounds he makes -- SomedaysConstant state of arousal -- Intimacy and the moment __ What kind of style __searching forThe other side to casual fwbs

Toys r'us Request to see my toys__New toys

My kinks: My master list for BDSM 2018
Alternative thinkin are you kink friendly update2016 __ Just a view into my kinks
Kinky search, for me and for you __The list __ My kinks bondage
Orgasm study__ Orgasm study__Kinky mind for me

My searches: not currently looking for anyone new.

Tongue Goes in First tonight__Squirty needs towels__Flirty Friday __Sinday morning and The list
another day done__Finding your MOJO
Sinday mornin __Seems I have __ confidence and attraction are they two different things
Photo time Male nude partial nude d15c
A post for some retrospect I suppose -- Trying to sleep -- Lustful thoughtsmind wanders at work

Virtual Symposium
1st time for the 12th VS International Intrigue -- 13th Virtual world and blogs -- 14th vs First dates
15th VS Black and White __ 16th vs Casual relationships __17th The First Time __18th VS Its a Secret&vs18its a secret__19thVS Its science time__20thVS My life as a __VS23 Dreams

Ponderings
Sexy saturdaypenis thoughts__ Adventures in dating land for tues__Mornin ladywood
Carpet service required__Sinday mornin well lunch time__Sex chat __Thirsty Thursday free time
world of words __ Logical right__Friday __ What kind of style
Strokin wat __Where o'where are you hiding


Just for daily FUN
Finally Friday__ Just another day in paradise __ Saturday free time
another chilly winter night j14n16 __ Sexy saturday night j3n16
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Profiles and getting excited.
Posted:Feb 14, 2019 11:12 am
Last Updated:Feb 15, 2019 10:02 pm
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In the last 8 months or so I have been coming across dating profiles or ads placed on the kink site that catch my eye, I get all excited because it is well written and he's age appropriate.
If its an ad then I will read his profile, and then one of two things happen - hes either looking for someone under 25 or his age preference is too vague that I end up asking him what his preferences are. Most times he is looking for much younger but doesn't want to state that clearly for whatever reason. But that rare unicorn that is open to his age bracket (call me skeptical now) I take a second look at the whole ad and profile and things start to look 'too perfect'.



Then onto profiles, heck I even see some on here that are well done and make me want to write a message... but the question is: are they fake because they are too good to be true.
If it was a man asking about the barely legal hottie that is dtf nsa and looking for daddy then I would say it will most likely be a fake.

I have seen a few profiles that came pretty close to matching mine, and he seemed to be looking for someone like me but then the location becomes the factor that stops me reaching out because yanno guys want attractive women not average looking. Lol.

Just a bit frustrated today because many of the profiles that I like seem to be fake. Lol
At any rate the men will be coming out of hiding by Saturday and they may be more open to meeting. So we will see.

Sexy bloggers,
Its sunny here again today, I think I need to go for a hike.
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SAD celebrations
Posted:Feb 13, 2019 12:47 pm
Last Updated:Feb 14, 2019 1:12 pm
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That's Single Awareness Day!

Yanno that day that follows Vday, but I do agree with the fairness with steak n bj day one month after Vday. Lol. If women are allowed to demand expensive gifts and dinner out then...
Ps, that is also my Bday so does that mean I get steak n oral??
Or steak n pie (pi)
Lol



I have no issue with being single, its just a nuisance to find sex, and I'm sure I can settle for something but when lifes short I would rather not settle on meh. But then I think most people would rather not settle, hence why soo many singles are out there. (Yes I know there are many reasons why people are single or remain single).

Can I just find hot sex with a good friend but not be in a committed live in monogamous relationship.
Or how about a stag n vixen lifestyle with the occasional sex party.
For now I have my vibrator. (at least it doesnt complain about how much sex I desire. Lol. )
One thing that baffles me is when someone claims to be "stuck" in a relationship, or chooses to stay in an unhealthy relationship. Just take the initiative to change and share the emotional burden with your SO.
Life's short, but then I mentioned that already.

Anyhoo,
I didn't bother to arrange a SAD dinner meet n greet this year, because I live out of town but more because it was mainly women showing up or maybe 2 other people. I can just count my money at home, drink a corona, and enjoy a nice dinner.

The sun is shining today! Spring will be here soon enough!!
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Dirty talk?
Posted:Feb 12, 2019 10:47 am
Last Updated:Feb 13, 2019 9:34 am
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Click bait and not what you think!

I know that wasn't fair, but it does lead into the topic of dirty talk, sexting, sex chat, ... all of which I pretty much suck at (and not in a good way). Lol
Picture sharing I can do, but to be fair I bore quickly of it now and much prefer skin on skin.

I can play along when a casual partner/lover would want some JOI or sexting, but I'm definitely more of a hands on type of person.
I mean I get that a good wank is fun and that sex can be too strenuous or require effort, but if all you want is custom porn then I need new partners. Lol. Occasional sexting is fine especially because distance and work schedules can be an issue for real life interactions, but if theres no plan in the near future for skin contact then maybe you need a new partner that turns you on in real life.

Its that fine line in between flirting/sexting with an established partner and him just using you for jerk off material.
Its one of the main reasons why I steer away from any online flirting or sex chatting, talking about sex (another fine line), and save it for after we meet ...and then it depends on how often you want skin contact.

I also know that online play can be utilized as shallow validation by many or an escape from reality or "not cheating" for the married/attached people. I am no stranger to seeking validation that I am "desirable" even if it was from internet strangers, but when there is none in real life then its nice to know that someone somewhere notices even if he only sees you as a sex object.

Lets see
I know many covet having a list of chicks to give them custom sexting, but do you also want to meet in real life?
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Luck you say ๐Ÿค”
Posted:Feb 11, 2019 10:48 am
Last Updated:Feb 12, 2019 1:48 pm
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I do believe that most everyone has a varying definition of "luck", and it is most likely based in context.

So when someone on a dating site (or on here) asks me "hows your luck?" I will ask him to clarify what he means by luck. Of course the vast majority of those men are asking about successful nsa hookups and not whether I met anyone worthwhile.
So yes clarity counts when it comes to definitions. Especially when it comes to dating, hookups, casual sex, "relationships", relationships, casual partners, and even sex. Fair to say that most men online are looking for nsa sex, if he finds her worthy of more then he decides after sex...that is if he doesn't judge her badly for putting out in the first place. (Another dammed if you do/dammed if you dont).



Anyhoo,
Luck
One thing I still need to do is update my dating profile (memo to self),

Sexy bloggers,
For those looking at female profiles over 40 yrs old, what kind of content are you looking for?


My profile is just not working to attract like minded men, maybe it needs to sound ditzy or clueless or something... lol. Mentioning kink and some expectations around adult interactions is not appealing to the menfolk or they only focus on those words which is a turnoff; but when I have used a really generic vanilla profile before and a few guys said it sounded boring (after they seen my kink profile and decided they wanted to meet). But I just copy pasted from a few vanilla profiles (of course it all depends on looks .).
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Whose in ๐Ÿ˜Ž
Posted:Feb 8, 2019 10:45 am
Last Updated:Feb 11, 2019 10:19 am
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It's Friday and I was thinkin that it would be an awesome night to find some really good food!

Torn between soulful bbq and steak n lobster
Or a great 3 or 5 course meal paired with cheap beer. Lol

Include some stimulating conversation and in no hurry to finish the meal.
Hot date would be fun, but it will always end in an emptiness because you know you need to spend the next 6 months finding another date. So why not enjoy an evening out with people you know and just enjoy the food without worrying that hes judging you because you are enjoying the dinner.

Anyhoo,
thinkin for lunch there will be bacon included, because yanno I have a day off. and bacon is good for any reason.

Sexy bloggers,
Do you create a feast just because, just to enjoy an evening with good food?

Me and my spawn will do that on occasion, dress up and hit a really nice restaurant or put effort into a soul food dinner at home. Its more because we need to slow down and enjoy the moment.
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Whose in ๐Ÿ˜Ž
Posted:Feb 8, 2019 10:45 am
Last Updated:Feb 16, 2019 5:51 am
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Another post that I can only edit but not open.
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Almost lost blogs. ๐Ÿ™„
Posted:Feb 7, 2019 10:19 am
Last Updated:Feb 8, 2019 9:17 pm
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Living in the badlands sometimes includes low internet , which means my cell does weird things due to intermittent internet.

There is a blog that duplicated, i went to delete the duplicate and it wouldn't let me, I edited it instead (ducky meme)...and now I am not able to open it so now ya'll are stuck with it. Lol

But while I was mucking around with trying to get my internet to cooperate,

^^^ that flashed up!
I was sure this site locked me out of my blog pages!

Not the end of the world, but there are a few I haven't moved to my other site yet...but the thought of not having access to the blog pages brought thoughts of just deleting the profile because I really only use it for 2 main reasons. Those reasons are not for meeting people, only real reasons to maintain the profile is just to be a voyeur and to blog, but occasionally chat on the IM (so guess thats 2.5).

Low internet also slows down my searching for topics online, so now I have been getting back to reading more books. Which too much screen time isn't good for you anyway, especially if you are trying to search for compatible partners and have a mainly empty inbox. ๐Ÿ™„

So and then
The adventures in dating land will be quiet till after Vday, then most women will see an explosion in thier inbox as the men scramble to find hookups after their 6 week hiatus. Lol, or if they are like the men in my area most haven't been online searching since last October.
The short window for meeting will start feb th or so. Then its a rush to find someone before the summer starts and the menfolk disappear again.

Ah well until then I need to update my dating profile because soon 45.

Sexy bloggers,
Which dating sites do you use, or just answer in of online sites you utilize?

Hopefully our internet home is fixed soon.
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Cheer you up ๐Ÿ˜ท
Posted:Feb 1, 2019 9:56 am
Last Updated:Feb 6, 2019 4:28 pm
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When a friend is feeling sick, the easiest way to cheer him up is with a smile.



Plus surprise pics tend to make him chuckle.


When you run out of stuff to write about then just post a nudie pic.
But I will say my bush is just a wee bit out of control!

Kinda like how long my leg hairs get during winter and because of singleness.
But anyhoo, its Friday in the badlands and ready for the wknd.

Enjoy your day and hope you don't get the cold/flu that is plaguing the city!
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Tues
Posted:Jan 29, 2019 7:26 pm
Last Updated:Feb 16, 2019 5:51 am
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And my internet is soo glitchy tonight. Lol



Cant delete the duplicate post so may as well change it.
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Writers block ๐Ÿค”
Posted:Jan 29, 2019 7:24 pm
Last Updated:Feb 1, 2019 9:48 am
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So it's no secret about dating in the badlands, or the lack of suitable potentials, yadda yadda.

I will admit that it's been a few years since I have had a kink play partner, so my writings around that have all but dried up. Even though I have seen some very hot bdsm scenes in the last few years, at most I can appreciate thier bond and thank them for sharing thier scene. But my kinks are not for everyone anyway, but I suppose I could do some of them with a female bottom instead of trying to find a male. Though the last time I was open to female bottoms I ended up with domly doms in my inbox wanting me to play with thier subs in front of him. (complete turn off bec they also wanted me to use my strapon on her and spank her. Ugh.)
Which makes me really wonder how interested men actually are in alternative fun besides the typical old guy/young girl.

Back to sex and being over 40. Where the men become sought after the women pretty much fade away. Unless you are looking for nsa/anonymous sex then you will still get messages. I even get guys on the paid dating sites messaging me like I'm a free sex worker.
So back to my years long question of where do you find men into good sex? And those that enjoy a sexual older woman.



So now the writers block sets in.
I have soo many ideas, thoughts, pleasure seeking quests that I would love to do, so much that I want to explore, orgasms that I am missing, and the long effort of lowering my libido...the roadblocks of finding men.

How do you write about something you really want? Especially if female pleasure may turn off most readers because its not about fmf/ffm or ff dates.

I have written about my different types of orgasms.
I have written a little about my fantasies but keep those mainly hiding now.

If I dont keep my mind busy I could easily fade away ...

Ah well 2 more weeks till the dreaded Vday is done n over with and the men will come out of hiding for 5 more weeks until the summer time starts calling then you wont see them until the fall time. Lol
Then its a race to find someone before summer.

Geesh. Sure can use that boyfriend experience right about now.

Oh and the writers block is around my lack of sexy imagination with my writings, I have more than enough crap to ponder over.
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Sinday in the badlands
Posted:Jan 27, 2019 11:15 am
Last Updated:Jan 29, 2019 8:27 pm
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The badlands is sunny n clear today. ย 

Breakfast of hashbrowns, sausages, basted med eggs, and coffee, now I'm ready for sinday chores.ย 

But lets see, , people ask about my fantasies thinking they are something super elaborate, well yes and no and pending situation. I can easily daydream about kink scenes I would love to do but that does not mean that I am jilling off to it (actually that's very rare to be sexually aroused, its more of a mental arousal), though I may get super excited about it. Clear as mud, ya its complicated.ย 

Sexual solo time, or even sexual arousal without masturbation, those scenes are not as elaborate as you would hope for especially coming from someone like me. ย ย 

Right now because of the lack of partners, my spankable fantasies revolve mainly around penetration by a hard cock. Yes thrilling isn't it. Lol

Believe me I certainly wish that casual sex was far more fun than it actually is. Between the 2min guys and the ED I had to call it quits, besides I prefer primal passion over mechanical sex. Somedays I couldn't even muster the energy to fake my interest in what he was doing for himself.ย I really did try and learn to have sex like a man, that mechanical detachment pretty much led me to just doing cam shows instead. Lol

Anyway, back to the jill-off time ย ย 

Somedays I use my porn for the sound while I'm picturing a man with his hard cock and willing attitude. Which I chuckled the one day where I flipped through the different men in my spank bank that I would like to fuck, just to find one that would work at that moment. Somedays I think wtf why that guy, Lol, primal senses at play there.ย 

But to find a man willing for sex more than once a day would be really hot. Especially on wknds where you can sneak away for a quickie! Or have that lazy sinday mornin with some slow sex 2 times over.... or sex while on a hike, or lunchtime sex, or an afternooner.
Sex after work during the week especially after a stressful day, totally relaxing.
Sex when I am horny - priceless.ย 


One day I will find someone willing, but until then I have my vivid imagination. ย Oh and the hard cock is not some 14" monster porn cock (guys are the biggest size queens when it comes to cock), but then I have never been with anyone with a cock smaller than a girthy 6.5" (Except the 6 man night, most of those guys had some pretty average cocks, but that's a whole other scene).

And then, craving sex, full body pleasure, hard cocks, willing hands, some long wet oral play.... a weekend full of sensual pleasures would spark my hibernating libido up but would that only lead to frustration because I will spend the rest of the year searching for sex...again.

I better get to doing my chores, firewood isn't going to chop itself.

Count your stars lucky if you have reliable partners that you can enjoy time with including more than just piv sex (though right now I'm sure craving that full penetration and the feel of his body against mine).

Just having men that are available when you are also horny, talk about rare indeed. Lol

Enjoy the day
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