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Anonymous Message Drop
Posted:Jul 17, 2018 6:52 pm
Last Updated:Jun 17, 2020 7:28 pm
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Yep, you are in the right place. This is where even standard, non-paying members can contact me. correspondence is strictly kept between us. I ask then, Why so shy? Come sit a spell and say "HI!"

Holy crap Batman! thirteen THOUSAND views/visitors
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1100 miles
Posted:Jun 26, 2020 2:06 pm
Last Updated:Jun 28, 2020 1:17 pm
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Turned11 00 miles today the bicycle. Got caught in a brief shower but I will take that any day of the year over snow. After almost 50 miles, I stopped at a pavilion at the park and enjoyed a wonderful conversation with a woman and her . She was blonde, slender, attractive, her dark skinned and heavy black hair. So I asked. She said she had been in India taking an extension class when she met and married a man there. Both her and her were effervescent. So delightful to converse with such people. Anyway, my age somehow came and of them disbelieved . I dont know if it is a blessing or a curse always be mistaken for someone 20 younger. I know most women would consider that a blessing but as I get older I think age equals respect. A delusion, yes I know. I suppose that is because when I was young, age did equal respect. People today seem to have largely lost that grace. Our society is dying!
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Black and White
Posted:Aug 19, 2019 6:24 am
Last Updated:Aug 23, 2019 11:41 am
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I have always thought black and white photos added a bit of mystic.
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That Dark Side
Posted:Aug 14, 2019 7:48 pm
Last Updated:May 15, 2020 6:12 am
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Is everyone here about sex? Are there not people who exist anymore who are able hold a conversation? Is there no else here who wants know the mind of another? Sure, physical intimacy is great. I think that is what 99.99% of subscribers are here for. But what about intimacy on a deeper level?

[JD MacDonald] Bed is dangerous country. The physical act is the least chancy part of it, requiring health, maturity and a reasonable consideration. It is the emotional interaction that makes it mysterious and perilous, turning it into something that mankind finds so endlessly interesting.

Yes it does.






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Mature Women: Better Sex?
Posted:Jul 30, 2019 12:25 pm
Last Updated:Aug 2, 2019 11:29 am
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I saw this meme so thought I'd post it. One would think older, mature women (they don't have to be one and the same) would be better sex partners. One would think . But I have found no matter the age, today most everyone is a player. i.e. self absorbed. Both young and old freely ghost you. Of course, you never really know if the profile is real or . A profile may say 50 but correspondence so gives the impression they and playing you. I have been chatting with 3 different women in the last 2 wks at different sites and they all told me their name was Melissa. What are the chances of ? And all 3 talked about the same things the same way.

For a long time I thought older women would be more real, less self centered, more respectful. Mostly this has not been my experience. Sad. IMHO it is indicative of society as a whole.
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Fake vs Real
Posted:Jul 28, 2019 11:37 am
Last Updated:Jul 29, 2019 11:22 am
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I have recently, even after all these years, been educated. And it hurts. It hurts to be played. It hurts to know there are people there you open up to and you are real with them but they are fake . Ya, I know. I knew it a long time ago. But I am just one of those sort of people who trusts others because he foolishly things others are as open and honest as he is. Unfortunately, this leopard is unable to change its spots.
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When Reality Exceeds Fantasy
Posted:Jul 21, 2019 4:39 pm
Last Updated:Jul 30, 2019 12:28 pm
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Harry Potter: "Is this real or just happening in my head?"

Dumbledor: "Just because it's happening in your head doesn't make it less real."

Personally, I just wished it would happen.
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Parameters: Do yours keep you from exploring new horizons?
Posted:Jul 18, 2019 2:26 pm
Last Updated:Jul 19, 2019 5:12 am
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The meme made me consider this question. I know we all have our likes and dislikes and set our boundaries accordingly. And as you get more and more settled into your boundaries, it usually takes a shock to bump you over the line. I speak from personal experience and have to keep reminding myself to not be so set in what I am willing to experience and with whom. As with the meme, some of those people outside you norm will treat you better and with a great deal more appreciation.
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My Grandmother
Posted:Jul 3, 2019 11:37 am
Last Updated:Oct 2, 2019 9:07 am
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I started off life in a very small, rural farming community west of Peoria. My dad was rarely home as he worked up in Chicago area. Rented an apartment there and only came back to visit the family, maybe once a month. Another story for another time. However, in small little town, where stayed out playing till late at night and walking home by themselves with no thought of anything evil, my grandparents had their house on the other side of town. They were definitely backwoods, old school, Sunday go to meeting, simple life people. No TV. Occasionally turned a radio on. Black coffee. Out door toilets. But I loved it. Especially the swallow house on top of the telephone pole.

My grandmother was full of all sorts of little proverbs and words of wisdom. One has stuck with me down through the years was to never trust someone who had never suffered loss. I do not remember what her definition of loss was. Her and grandpa did not have much to lose. And what they did have they often gave to others who were even less fortunate than themselves.

It was perhaps 20 yrs later, engaged, totally enjoying life with my fiancé, when I got my "greetings" letter from my Uncle Sam. So off to war I was dragged. And yes, by the time I made it back home, she was married to someone who did not get drafted. To put it mildly, it devastated me. There is still a hole in my heart has not and never will completely healed.

And in the vein of something else my grandmother use to repeatedly say, "All things work together for the good" I have all too often pondered just what good came out of losing the "wife of my youth."

Anyone here with a similar life experience? Did it work out for the good for you?
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HWP Is it too much to hope for?
Posted:Jun 14, 2019 7:35 am
Last Updated:Jul 2, 2020 5:41 am
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I am five eight, maybe hundred and sixty pounds. Fit. But I find a solidly built woman be quite attractive.






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Rainy Day Humor
Posted:May 24, 2019 6:14 am
Last Updated:May 30, 2019 2:24 pm
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Some older ads. The PC crowd will be offended.









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The Rarest Relationship of All
Posted:May 14, 2019 10:28 am
Last Updated:May 24, 2019 6:16 am
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"The world went and got itself in one big, damn hurry." Brooks, Shawshank Redemption.

We live in such a busy culture. We are busy with work, with family, with travel. And partly because of , a good description would be, "The Microwave Society." Everything we do is rushed. If someone is doing the speed limit in front of you, you get upset they aren't doing 5MPH more. If your food order takes just a little longer than you expect or someone comes in after you and gets served sooner than you, your feathers get ruffled. And such are our relationships. FWB/NSA is exactly microwave mentality. It is little more than /John without the money exchange. Today's priority relationship are romantic love, erotic love, family love, sexual love, neighborly love. All of these take priority over the rarest of all our relationships — friendship.

Think of all the romantic love songs. Perhaps your phone is brimming over with them. Now think of all the songs about friendship. Can you name one?

Standing in line at the store, what are all those glossy magazines headlines? Mostly they are about this or person sleeping with so and so. Have you ever seen an article, let alone a headline, about someone being friends with someone else?

LOTR. The movies depicting JRRTolkien's Lord of the Rings, necessarily included the romance between Aragorn and Arwen. There was also the flirtation between Éowyn with Aragorn. However, in the books themselves, this was only briefly noted in the appendages. The true theme of LOTR was friendship. It illustrated richly friendship is not a biological or even sociological necessity. Friendship is deliberate.

C.S. Lewis wrote: "Friendship is the least instinctive, least organic, least biological, least necessary of all our loves. It has the least commerce with our physical systems. There is nothing throaty about it or quickens the pulse or makes you red and pale."

Simply put, not matter how busy our lives become there is always time/priority for family, for erotic/romantic love and even for neighbor love. There always remains family involvement, vocation and civil involvement. No matter how busy you are, you still have romantic desires. However, friendship is deliberate. A friend is someone who has chosen to include you in their lives. It is always intentional. If it wasn't, it would soon be squeezed out of your busy lives. Perhaps, if we are truly honest with ourselves, outside of family, outside of vocational acquaintances, even apart from romantic relationships, we have very very few, if any true friends.

"Fools perish for the lack of friends or because of poorly chosen friends."

Early in life we are formed by our families. Later in life, we are what your friends, our communities make us. Friends are not about facing each other expressing their love. It is about sitting shoulder to shoulder, where one replies, "Oh! You too?" Friends feel the same way about many things. Friends think the same way about many things. Friends experience and carry many of the same burdens.

Friendship love in the relationship with the least amount of intrigue. Little is there hurt cause by the other. It is a relationship where there is little concern about being judged. It is the relationship where there is little usury. Most people you have in your life are there because of what they offer you; what benefit you gain from them. It may be as simple as just having a good time together. i.e. drinking buddy. It maybe they are a means to meet other people for either corporate ladder climbing or societal ladder climbing. Maybe it is because of their company expedites accomplishing things you need to get done. i.e. They own a truck and you need to move something. Friendship, real friendship involves very little of this.

So, what are some necessities of a good friend?
1) Constancy: no matter what the weather is, they don't offer, "Call me if you need anything." Rather, they are there beside you without any thought of what it cost them.

2) Carefullness: A good friend knows you well enough not to crack a joke when you're down. You don't glibly treat their situation with "when are you going to learn." Rather: "Like apples of gold in settings of silver Is a word spoken in right circumstances."

3) Candor: True friends expose themselves to one another. True friends do not fear one another's thoughts or comments. The are free to speak. They are free to disclose the secrets they hide from all others.

4) Counsel: True friends offer guidance when it is warranted. Yes, sometimes, if not most times, a true friend needs to simply listen, to be an ear, a shoulder to cry on. But there are also those times when wise counsel is given, removed from their trouble, able to see more objectively, perhaps more experientially.

Friends. Do you really want one? Do you really want to be one?





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Passive Men
Posted:May 11, 2019 8:06 am
Last Updated:May 14, 2019 1:05 pm
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A little food for thought :

Passive men don’t stop evil.



Passive men don’t defend, protect or provide.



Passive men don’t lead.



Passive men don’t do the things we have always needed men to do for society to thrive.



Demonizing masculinity is not the solution, but the problem of much of today's society.

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MAKE MEN MASCULINE AGAIN
- by Allie Stuckey

M*rder, w ar—they all have one thing in common: Men.

Aggression, violence, ambition unchecked by conscience—all the stuff of “toxic masculinity,” right? And, the solution is obvious: make men less toxic. Make men less masculine. Make men more like women.

But I’m here to tell you that this way of thinking is not only wrong, it’s dangerous.
Here’s why: When you try to make men more like women, you don’t get less “toxic masculinity,” you get more.

Why? Because bad men don’t become good when they stop being men; they become good when they stop being bad. Aggression, violence, and unbridled ambition can’t be eliminated from the male psyche; they can only be harnessed. And when they are harnessed, they are tools for good, not for harm.

The same masculine traits that bring destruction also defeat tyranny. The traits that foster greed also build economies. The traits that drive men to take foolish risks also drive men to take heroic risks.

The answer to toxic masculinity isn’t less masculinity; it’s better masculinity. And we know what that looks like.

It’s a young man opening the door for a girl on their first date. It’s a father working long hours to provide for his family. It’s a soldier risking his life to defend his country.

The growing problem in today’s society isn’t that men are too masculine; it’s that they’re not masculine enough. When men embrace their masculinity in a way that is healthy and productive, they are leaders, warriors and heroes. When they deny their masculinity, they run away from responsibilities, leaving destruction and despair in their wake.

The consequences can be seen everywhere.

One in four fathers now lives apart from his . And who grow up without a dad are generally more depressed than their peers who have a mother and a father. They are at far greater risk for incarceration, pregnancy and poverty. Seventy-one percentPr of high school dropouts are fatherless.

“Of all the rocks upon which we build our lives...family is the most important. And we are called to recognize and honor how critical every father is to that foundation. . . . If we are honest with ourselves,” he went on, “we’ll admit that...too many fathers are...missing from too many lives and too many homes.”
That was said by then-Senator Barack Obama in 2008.

As much as we try to deny the need for real, masculine strength in society, there’s no denying its necessity. Healthy families and strong communities depend on the leadership and bravery of good men.

Yet, the current trend is to feminize young men in the hopes of achieving some utopian notion of equality and peace. And it starts at the earliest ages. In the school classroom, boys are invariably “the problem.” On the playground, aggressive games like dodge ball have long been banished. We tell young men that their intrinsic desire to compete is wrong. Everybody gets a trophy. Don’t run up the score. This anti-male tilt continues on through higher education and into the workplace. It has created millions of tentative men, unhappy women, and confused boys and girls.

Here’s a secret that every woman knows: Women want real men—men they can count on and, yes, look up to. No amount of feminist theory will change that. I don’t know any woman, at any age, who is attracted to a passive man who looks to her to be his provider, protector and leader. Every woman I know wants a strong, responsible man. That’s not a consequence of a social construct or cultural pressure—it’s innate.

The devaluation of masculinity won’t end well because feminine, passive men don’t stop evil. Passive men don’t defend, protect or provide. Passive men don’t lead. Passive men don’t do the things we have always needed men to do for society to thrive.

In his book, The Abolition of Man, English social philosopher C.S. Lewis writes about this problem. He describes the tension “between cerebral man and visceral man.” “By his intellect,” Lewis explains, man “is mere spirit and by his appetite mere animal.”

We need both. Take away one, and you’re left with a man who’s either weak or wicked. And in a world of wickedness, weak men are nothing more than enablers of wicked men.

M*rder, war—they all have two things in common: bad men who do the murdering, and warring; and weak men who won’t stop them. We need good men who will.

It’s not masculinity that’s toxic. It’s the lack of it.
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