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Swinging MUST be a mutual consensus. BOTH male and female MUST be open to the idea. One partner can not do it reluctantly or apprehensively just to please the other partner, it will not work! It will leave the uncertain partner feeling guilty, ashamed, used or completely uncertain about the future of the relationship, or in worse case scenario resentful and hateful and immediately put and end to the relationship.
Honestly, if you say you do not know how you feel about it… you are lying to yourself already trying to make your partner happy. By admitting that you do not know how you feel about it, is a nice way of saying "I'm not into it." More importantly you have admittedly said that you have a jealous bone… that right there makes any kind of swinging lifestyle out of the question for you. You will be miserable!

There is NO middle ground or grey area here
Either you ARE into it or you are NOT !!!!

In an attempt to help you better understand what you are considering, I will offer some answers (because you asked) to the questions you have posed using my personal experiences to guide my answers. I don't claim to be an expert or know all the answers…. Fok no I'm just a smarta$$ that can offer some ideas of the what I have seen, experienced and interpreted.

First and foremost, if you do not understand or believe that there is definitely a discernable difference between sex and emotional love….. FORGET IT !

1. The two of you sit down and begin an honest, open and caring conversation concerning the subject sharing honestly all of your thought, feelings and fears.

2. If he/she is not coming home and they are going to see they're lover and you know it… by definition that is not swinging.. That is an open marriage. Swinging at it's core definition is the couple involved together with others. Then there are many forms of swinging….
There are couples that get together with other couples and have sex with their partners only and watch the other couple.
Couples who get together and just touch the other couple no intercourse with anywon except your own partner.
Then there is Full Swap… that is self explanatory… most couples insist on full swap same room. This is what I enjoy the most. I find watching my partner enjoy herself with somewon else in pure pleasure and ecstasy to be exciting as all hell! Plus it's kinda like a live inter-active porn
Then there's MFM or FMF… groups and so on

3. There must be rules…. And you and your partner MUST define those long before beginning any experience and always follow the rules or your newly found lifestyle and quite possibly your relationship is doomed.

4. Do NOT … I repeat DO NOT try this unless BOTH partners are into it completely! I cannot emphasize this strongly enough. If you are not 100% willing to try… then your partner should have enough respect for you and say OK
I guarantee you if you try it just to please your mate and you do not like it…. You will be resentful for a long time IF your relationship survives.

5. If have began a swinging lifestyle and won partner wishes to stop… then that partner only has to express his/her feeling… if the other partner loves and respects the first enough… they will stop together.

6. Jealousy has ABSOL-Fok'in-LUTELY no place in the singing lifestyle! If either won of you have that jealous bone…. FORGET swinging!

7. You must pick partners together and agree…. Everything must be done together
REMEMBER the key word and the key person here is your PARTNER!!!
Swinging can not be a selfish act… swinging is designed to share Mutual Pleasure
And selfishness by anywon will completely ruin the experiences

8. It is not about allowing your man to sleep with another woman or who she is…. It's about sharing the carnal pleasures of the body with somewon you care deeply with. There is no feeling in the world that compares to the first time you have sex with somewon, it's ALWAYS intense flaming lust, and in swinging you can share this feeling with the won you love and bring a new fire to your own relationship, returning that intense flaming lust.

If you have any reservations at all or of the jealous nature do not attempt to get into this life style
until you surgically remove the jealous bone!!!!!